I especially feel like I bum other migraineurs out when I talk about my experiences with migraine. I try to tell them "please don't judge your situation/expectations on my experiences, because I am an extremely hard to treat case," but I feel like that's not enough. When I hear of a migraineur who is worse than me or who has been chronic longer than me, my first thought is "oh no, will that be me someday? Is that what I have to look forward to?" I just can't help but compare our situations and put myself in her shoes.
Then, I get bummed out about it. It's hard to be positive when your sure your future is filled with more of the same bleakness and pain. So if this happens to me, I know it probably happens to others when they hear my stories of migraine. The getting bummed out and knowing your future will be filled with pain just like me. But I don't know how to honestly talk about myself, my life, without talking about migraine.
I used to avoid talking about migraine as much as I could, for fear of looking weak or being misunderstood. Now, I realize they are such a big part of my life I can't avoid talking about them and talking about them is a good thing. It brings awareness to a problem that needs more awareness.
So I guess all I'm saying is that it's a really difficult subject to put a positive spin on, so if I've ever been a bummer to you when discussing migraine, I certainly apologize. It's not my intent. I do hope I've raised awareness of the issue without being a Debbie-Downer. (There's that phrase again…)
And for all you Debbie's out there--stay positive!